Newborns
Dh and I go back and forth on the idea of having a third child. Well, it really isn’t back and forth - it is pretty much one sided. The conversation pretty much goes like this….
Me - “Don’t you think it would be great to have one more baby?”
Him - “No”
Me - “Really? Oh think of it…a sweet little baby girl! You would love her!”
Him - “First off, we would have a third boy. Second, I can’t imagine going through all of that again. You want another baby just when the other two are starting to grow up a little bit. Why??” He says that as he shakes head and rolls his eyes.
We go round and round during those conversations.
So I try convince myself that he is right. I should be happy with my two beautiful boys.
That convincing works for a little while.
Then I hold someone’s baby or see pictures of my girlfriend’s new son or hear news that one of my oldest friends is pregnant again and all of that convincing goes out the window.
I do want another. Not now, of couse. Having a baby wouldn’t be “convenient” right now or for the next 2 1/2 years. But one day, I do want that sweet baby girl.
August 6, 2007 at 10:31 am
That sounds a lot like the conversation WE’ve been having for the last three years… except I’m the one saying no!!
August 6, 2007 at 12:07 pm
I hear ya completely! Same type of conversations that have been happening in our house about having a 2nd baby! I want to now, hubby would be happy not at all but has agreed if we wait until Em’s 3rd birthday to start trying then he’ll be happy…that was our original plan anyway but I’m surrounded by pregnancies and new babies that make me itch to start trying sooner!
August 6, 2007 at 12:09 pm
You know I think you are insane, don’t you?
August 6, 2007 at 1:28 pm
Ohhhh, I know. I love newborns. I hate being pregnant, and yet I feel slightly jealous of women who are. It’s strange, because I certainly don’t want to do that pregnancy thing again, and I know that there’s a lot more to a baby than just looking at a cute newborn, so i probably won’t ever travel this road again. Still, though, I see a tiny little baby and feel that baby-hunger twinge!
August 6, 2007 at 3:39 pm
Last time I started to think seriously about that, I got a dog. Problem solved.
August 6, 2007 at 5:19 pm
Sounds like what is said in our house. Except I haven’t changed my mind. It’s still a no for me.
August 6, 2007 at 5:26 pm
I love newborns and get that same feeling too. Except then I realize I’d probably have a second set of twins and then I think absolutely not
August 6, 2007 at 8:36 pm
In our house, it goes something like this:
Hubby: So, you wanna have another one?
*cue two children fighting, throwing toys, screeching, or disobeying*
BookMama: Sure, I’d love to!
Both: hysterical laughter
We love our children dearly, but two’s enough for us, thank you very much! (Of course, LS IS only 20 months, so who knows … but I’m pretty sure we’re done, regardless.)
August 6, 2007 at 9:34 pm
I’m in the same boat. It’s not that I necessarily want a girl to add to the boys, but I love the idea of 3 little people in my house? Is it just love of the #3? The joys of the insanity? Visions of a packed car? Don’t know…but we’re still deciding if it’s for us.
August 7, 2007 at 10:30 am
I think there’s just something special about a baby, and I wonder if I’ll have such yearnings my whole life! (((((HUGS))))) sandi
August 7, 2007 at 1:18 pm
Three months ago and nearly four years after my second son was born I was blessed with my darling girl. Even if you didn’t end up getting your girl the third time, babies are just so precious and bring so much happiness, as you obviously already know. It was actually my husband who told me he was ready for another one.
August 7, 2007 at 2:50 pm
I like 4. It feels right. But, I would like one more girl. I simply don’t want to be pregnant again.(41 and holding)I have been longing to adopt. Maybe I should be having this conversation with my husband, Lene?
August 22, 2007 at 6:32 pm
As BookMama’s husband, I would like everything in parentheses stricken from comment 8.
Thank you.
August 27, 2007 at 2:27 pm
Wow…it’s like you’ve been listening in on one of our conversations lately! Even with everything that’s been going on, I still think I’d like a 3rd child, whether it be a boy or girl…hubby thinks otherwise!